Maybe reading this post years from today will remind you of a little nugget of advice I gave you this week...
In life we all encounter people who like to stir the pot. For reasons unbeknown to us they like to start drama. You have met someone in your young life that fits that bill. Personality clashes? Insecurities? Who knows why she likes confrontations and seems to like getting them going. I know you are your mother's child and won't back down for anyone (one of my favorite things about her by the way). Some times in order to win the war it is not a matter of going blow for blow. If we go through life like that we are bound to find someone that is just as intent on destruction and hostilities will never end.
Sun-Tzu said that war is a psychological affair with deception being the greatest weapon. What does that have to with kindergartners? Simple, I told you rather than argue back at the next round of "pot-stirring" to simply smile and give her a thumbs up. The result? She was shell-shocked and did not know what to do and thus was unable to get anything started. While this is not a long-term solution and will not work every time it does give you control of a situation when it does. By not giving people what they want and changing the game to the one you want to play you get behind the driver's seat.
I will not always be there when things get ugly, awkward, or uncomfortable. My advice and life lessons will be. I hope that I am able to do a good job as a father and prepare you to face life and adapt when the unforeseen happens. As a father I fear that I will never be able to feel 100% at ease as I know as you grow up you will be further away from my protection as you seek your own path but I want you to know that no matter what I will always be a call away. I will always have your back. I will always be here when you need me.