Tuesday, June 11, 2013

About How Families Work

It is not the easiest of things in life to make time for everything that you want, need, or would like to do. It gets even more complicated when you add the competing interests of others in your family. You want to go to the park while mom might want to go to the gym, me, I might not know what exactly I want to do but those two options are not it. That is life as a family. I made many decisions in my life that have led me to this point in my life. Those decisions came with responsibilities. Get married, you have to take into account your wife's desires. Have children, they have needs that take priority. I know that you can sense some of that in the household; any kid can. I just want you to know that it is not your fault. You will grow and learn that it is part of humanity. It is a skill that we all must learn and constantly use. What skill? The ability to prioritize competing interests and find common ground, to make sacrifices, to compromise. 

I am your father but I am also an individual and at times it takes work to balance those two roles. I just need you to know that regardless you will always be my daughter, I will always love you, and I will do everything to ensure your happiness. That does not mean I will do what you want me to do but what I need to. Long work days are necessary to provide for us. Saying no to extra work is also necessary to put family first. Every day we all have to find balance. It is not always easy. Knowing what is important, family, helps me keep me focused on what matters. In the long run you will see that the sacrifices that your mother and I have made will pay dividends to us all. It is important to know that the cost, the price, paid in life does not always show up on a bill. Some times it is in the time and attention that it requires. You have all my attention, all my time if you need it.