Monday, December 26, 2011

Our Own Traditions

Kids say the darn-est things.

A few weeks ago your mother said that you asked her a pointed question. You wanted to know why did we always go to someone else's house to spend the holidays. She told you that we like to spend time with our families so that's why we go to see them. A rather simple question, easily answered and we moved on. It was not over though. It was one of those questions that start a snowball effect. It got me to think about the reasons and ways we celebrate holidays in our family.

Family re-defined.

Some times it takes a while to notice how things have changed. It is hard to pinpoint when exactly the change happened and yet you know it has come. I have my own family, let that sink in, my own family. The statement tells me that I have to provide for my girls, that I have to put them before others, that I am responsible for more than just myself. I hadn't really thought about how that affects holidays. For as long as  I could remember we spent Thanksgiving at whoever was cooking, Christmas Eve at my grandmother's and Christmas Day at your aunts. Now we have to start thinking about what "our" traditions will become. Those were your mother's and mine traditions, now time to create some with you.

Impromptu beginnings.

This year was a strange one in the way things happened. Since my mother was traveling during Thanksgiving we started to have a pre-Thanksgiving dinner at her house so that we could enjoy it with her while still being able to have our own Thanksgiving. This allowed us all to get together and still do our own thing. This Christmas Eve we spent it together, just the three of us. It was a far cry to being at my grandmother's along with dozens of other family members. It felt right. The three of us got to spend a lot of quality time together. Plans changed, events got canceled, we didn't go everywhere we were expected, and it was perfect.

From now on.

We are creating our own traditions.One day these traditions will be passed down to your children and their children. I want you to be able to look back at your childhood and warmly remember all the things that we did with joy. Beyond pictures and videos I want you to have real memories with the people that matter most to you. To be able to tell your friends, your kids, your grandchildren how great it was to grow up in our household. We are more than people who happen to live together, we are a family.